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Am I a coward?
Am I a coward if I think he is cheating on me but I don't ask?
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Nope, you just aren't ready yet.
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I don't think you are a coward, I think you are just unsure of what to do and trying to weigh out all the options. Any woman who has wondered what you are wondering is usually initially frozen by fear and shock but that does not make you a coward.
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Take it from some one who wasted a lot of time wondering, ASK HIM! Don't be like me and wait years, emotionally simmering with anger and fear only to find out that he did cheat on you! It is like tearing off a band aid! Just find out what the truth is and then decide what is best for you.
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My gut tells me that you are not the coward, you a probably the brave one! Whatever he is doing to make you feel insecure and question your relationship is cowardly!!!!
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Why as women do we always question ourselves and assume something negetive about ourselves! Don't ask if you are a coward, ask him if he is a cheater!! Take my word for it there is probably nothing wrong with you!
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Please don't be hasty because once you open this door, it can't be closed again. If your husband really is cheating, it is better to know than to worry yourself sick wondering but dear, take it from me, this is a very treacherous road. It can get ugly very quickly, so be sure you feel prepared before you begin. There are a lot of big questions ahead of you. Take your time.
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Don't be so hard on yourself. Why do you think he is cheating? It might not be the case at all. Is there evidence or are you feeling insecure and ignored? Hard questions I know but before you ask him better to answer these tough questions yourself.
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Here's an idea. Keep your conversation super light and take advantage of the Tiger Woods situation to get a feel on where your husband is at. Try telling a Tiger joke or ask him what he thinks of him and see if you can gleen any clues as to where he's at on the topic of cheating. You may be surprised at what a person reveals when they are talking about someone else.
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DON'T ask unless you want to know the answer. marriage is a very long journey, we fall in and out of "like" hopefully we always "love". The answer maybe a temporary emotion that puts a final decision into play. Ask yourself if you are willing to accept what ever the answer will be.
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You are not a coward. Deep down you're thinking, if he's cheating, you don't want to know because the consequences are too overwhelming. It will eventually come out...it always does. There are a few questions you need to ask yourself:
- do you want to know the answer?
- are you prepared to ask the question?
- if you don't ask the question, then what are you going to do?
- if you find out that he's cheating, then what do you do?
Tough questions to answer, but if you don't answer them, you'll be forever in doubt which is not a good place to be when you're in a marriage. A relationship without trust & love, is really not a marriage but a relationship of convenience.
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Courage is about doing what you need to when you are ready and only you know when you are ready.
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Here's a bit of advice. Take it or leave it. Ask or don't ask. It's just a matter of timing. If he is cheating, I guarantee you'll find out eventually. It depends on whether you like surprises or not.
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Do you think the person who asked even checks in here anymore. It was a while ago. If you are still around, did you ever ask?
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